Hi! I call myself social butterfly
because I am very active in almost every social forum. I comment, like, share,
post and repost. I would like to begin my story as an unknown, someone who
could be you and me or may be someone who actually does not exist in this
world.
I was born in 80’s, grown up in
90’s, try to get matured in 2k’s. To survive, to stand on my own feet I fought
with society and family. I got married at the age of 34. It’s not that I am
career wise very sound or achieved a lot to delay my marriage. It’s just that I
never felt that urge of marriage till that age. Late marriage is not a social
stigma nowadays, but it was for me, for very relevant reason that I was not
financially independent then.
After marriage the first thing
comes in our mind for someone overgrown bride like me is child. Marrying almost
in mid 30’s and then being childless within one or two year is complete no-no
to our society. When I say people that I am planning, they got awestruck! I
don’t know what they think. But I am biologically all right to carry a child. And
it is not my say, it is doctor says. Yes, medically it is been proved that I
can be a biological mom. It is just the decision I have made to feel myself
secured enough to bring a new life into this world. Some doctor says it is the
high time to conceive and some says it is late. I just wanted to ask them that
Is it fine not to let your mind conceive the fact that you want to be mom or
you want to take a new responsibility, on the other hand you conceived a baby.
In near future won’t the new born feel unwanted? I believe, marriage, having
baby and death three of these things are having very strong relation with our mind.
Psychologically we have to conceive the fact first then only we are ready to
conceive physically. I am not a doctor, but I know myself better than them. I
have gone through depression and during that period I have learned one fact
that some disorders are the battle between human mind and their thought. No
medicines can do the miracle until the time you digest them.
I would like to thank my husband,
my pillar of strength who always stood by me in last two and a half years in
every decision what I have taken. I am sure there are many more years to come
my beau 😊.
Being childless is not a sin!
Sometime it’s a choice. I agree every time it may not be, sometime it could be
physical disability but not for all. There is no other option rather than to
adjust with the society and its people thought process. You can be vocal but
not all the time. Sometime it is good or I would say better to carry your
silence. Believe me it will relief you and bring peace to you.
Let’s not make the reproductive
system a battle ground between the person who may or may not be an upcoming
parent and the rest of the people of our society. Try not to impose parenting
to someone who might be already a parent by heart but not by head.
With love
Social butterfly 😊
